Thank you everyone for all you lovely messages. It means a lot. ❤ I am not a person to publicly put my feelings out there but it happened rather spontaneously.
My sister was very open during the last 2 years (since we found out), about the damage our mother – a covert narcissists – has caused, and I am very grateful to my sister that she never held back. She would tell people about it whether it was appropriate or not. She didn´t care, and she is right. Just creating a bit of awareness that this personality disorder exists is a first step and might help others.
Covert narcissists can be way more damaging and dangerous than open ones, as it is more difficult to spot them. It took me 10 years to figure it out and certainly didn´t come easy. But once you see through their game, you cannot believe how they could have fooled you for so long, as their acting skills can be described as horrendous at best.
I know I am not alone with this. And there are a lot of capybaras part of the lemon pool party.